November 5, 2018

Listen to Understand, Not to Respond

One of the main issues that individuals and couples seek counselling for is #communication. This word encompasses so much and, by virtue of its definition, requires more than one person. To have effective communication, we need a sen...

November 1, 2018

The 5 by 5 Rule

‘If it won’t matter in 5 years, do not spend more than 5 minutes worrying about it’

This was shared at an event I co-facilitated with Juliann from @empathiccounselling in conjunction with @nextgenmen in September that focused on #stress. Juliann Rasanayag...

November 1, 2018

I have always enjoyed this #quote.

As a young man, I used to really experience#anxiety about life and not being enough, doing things right, being good, etc. I still have moments where these feelings sneak in at times now.

I recall sitting in my very first #therapy se...

October 28, 2018

What is Himpathy?

A pathological moral tendency to feel sorry exclusively for the alleged male perpetrator — it was too long ago; he was just a boy; it was a case of mistaken identity — while relentlessly casting suspicion upon the female accusers –  Kate Manne

One need...

October 23, 2018

 photo credit - @djpulsemuscat

Being #proactive is something that I speak to in a majority of my #counselling sessions. So much of our #anxiety can be mitigated by being proactive as opposed to waiting and being reactive to the ‘what if’ questions that may come. Those ‘...

October 19, 2018

This can be challenging! I recall the first time I heard this sentiment, I was 26 years old and thought I had the world figured out.

I was in a meeting and a fellow was speaking and said, ‘just because something is easy, doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do. And, s...

September 14, 2018

How to support someone who is suicidal. Learn what to say, what to ask and how the professionals approach a person who is having suicidal thoughts.

I am looking for coping skills…

This is something that I have heard quite often in my work with people when they tell me they are experiencing either symptoms of anxiety or depression. Truth is, there are almost as many ways to cope with these negative feelings as there...


In the current climate of #MeToo this video is very topical. It’s energizing to see men seeking to have conversations about this important and sometimes polarizing topic.

The importance of men using their privilege to support those that are affected by gender ineq...

Choosing a therapist can feel overwhelming and the need to research interventions and modalities to understand which one is best. Then, find a therapist using that modality who is someone you are comfortable to open up to  for an hour at a time to ‘get better.’

Imagine...

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